.............not all those that wander are lost..............

Tuesday 10 January 2012

Here's a puzzle...............

{The supermarket cafe}

Visiting the supermarket for hot chocolate last week culminated in meeting with our former holiday house neighbours (who now live in Embrun) inviting us to dinner on Sunday evening past. It would be a raclette - that way they can feed me without having to go vegetarian for everyone.

If you're unfamiliar with raclette it consists of loads of cheese (special cheese which melts into a kind of creamy deliciousness), boiled potatoes, cold meat, and in this case, a bowl of courgettes. The idea is to melt the cheese under a heating element (usually called a raclette machine) in little individual pans. Our friends also served us a really good salad, and some quail's eggs.

Anyway, back to the puzzle. 

We arrived and had 'nibbles' and some Lagavulin. John is gradually educating the local population about good whisky. Lagavulin is probably my favourite whisky so that was a good start to the evening. The conversation for these 'soirees' is, of course, all in French.

One of the topics for the evening was the notion of  'le fair play'. We (well, John really) explained about cricket and rules and gentlemen not cheating etc. It appeared to go down well. Then came the crunch question....
A friend of theirs had been discussing what the English do when someone at a dinner table starts to tell a story they've told before. Apparently one should indicate that the story is a repeat by placing one's teaspoon across one's cup. The question was -  is this the case and how did this bit of etiquette work in practice. Oh dear!

First of all, we'd never heard of it. Secondly, we'd no idea how it would work and thirdly, we'd still no idea!
I think it just added to the mystery for the French afterall it had been a Frenchman who had uncovered this piece of weirdness on the part of the British. And now we (the British) couldn't help with any information.....that just made us even more weird!

Even after searching on Google later we have no idea where this notion came from. The only reference to placing a spoon across a cup seems to be American etiquette to indicate that you don't want any more tea!

By the way, we had a wonderful evening, with excellent hosts and some interesting, shared conversation.

I just wondered whether anyone else has come across this teaspoon messaging system - I'd love to hear (read) your comments if you have..........


{Our local plan d'eau - also frozen - we walked around this on Saturday}


5 comments:

Phreerunner said...

Weird. That alleged 'custom' would seem to me to be the height of rudeness. For a start, not everyone may have heard the story, and it may be a great tale, worthy of frequent repeats! If it really was a problem, the host should have a quiet word with the perpetrator, perhaps. But it's probably the host who is the culprit, and he/she is providing the meal FCS!

Laura said...

I couldn't agree more - I also have a picture of guests one by one placing their teaspoons until the story-teller gets the message -as you say, very rude! And so very NOT British.

Louise said...

Curious. I wonder who could have given their friend such a strange idea?

Gayle said...

That would also assume that cups and teaspoons were present on the dinner table. What do you do if the story is repeated in the absence of cups and spoons?

(word: nonsi. Is that a word somehow related to 'nonsense'?!)

Laura said...

Hi Gayle and Louise - Yes, it's all very curious! For a running joke I did suggest to John that next time they come to dinner I'll put a cup and a spoon on the table 'just in case' - mmmm!